{"id":7706,"date":"2014-02-12T16:51:08","date_gmt":"2014-02-12T15:51:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/maimoni.cafeblog.hu\/?p=7706"},"modified":"2014-02-12T16:51:08","modified_gmt":"2014-02-12T15:51:08","slug":"valentin-napi-konyvsorsolas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sutismoni.hu\/?p=7706","title":{"rendered":"Valentin-napi k\u00f6nyvsorsol\u00e1s"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Tavaly dolgoztam a Harmat Kiad\u00f3nak, \u00e9s v\u00e1laszthattam: vagy kifizetik a munk\u00e1m ellen\u00e9rt\u00e9k\u00e9t, vagy nagyobb \u00e9rt\u00e9kben v\u00e1laszthatok k\u00f6nyveket a k\u00edn\u00e1latukb\u00f3l. Mivel k\u00f6zelgett a kar\u00e1csony, a k\u00f6nyvek mellett d\u00f6nt\u00f6ttem. Remek k\u00f6nyveket kaptam, egy\u00e9bk\u00e9nt (t\u00f6bbek k\u00f6z\u00f6tt a m\u00e1r emlegetett Hat\u00e1raink \u00e9s Kamaszhat\u00e1rok c\u00edm\u0171t). N\u00e9h\u00e1nyat azonban nem aj\u00e1nd\u00e9koztam el, megtartottam magamnak, mert mindenk\u00e9ppen el akartam olvasni.<\/p>\n<p>Az egyik ezek k\u00f6z\u00fcl Gary Chapman: A h\u00e1zass\u00e1g n\u00e9gy \u00e9vszaka c\u00edm\u0171. A szerz\u0151 h\u00e1rom \u00e9vtizede tev\u00e9kenykedik h\u00e1zass\u00e1gi <a href=\"https:\/\/maimoni.cafeblog.hu\/files\/2014\/02\/chapman.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-7707 alignright\" alt=\"chapman\" src=\"https:\/\/maimoni.cafeblog.hu\/files\/2014\/02\/chapman-398x600.jpg\" width=\"239\" height=\"360\" \/><\/a>tan\u00e1csad\u00f3k\u00e9nt, k\u00f6zel negyven \u00e9ve h\u00e1zas (\u00fagy \u00e9rtem, egyfolyt\u00e1ban, ugyanazzal a h\u00f6lggyel). Ez a szememben rendk\u00edv\u00fcl fontos t\u00e9nyez\u0151, mert bevallom, rosszul vagyok, amikor olvasom, hogy gyerektelen fiatal l\u00e1ny osztogat gyereknevel\u00e9si tan\u00e1csokat, vagy egyed\u00fcl\u00e1ll\u00f3k mondj\u00e1k a h\u00e1zasoknak, hogyan lehetne j\u00f3l csin\u00e1lni. Tan\u00e1csot olyan adjon, aki azon a ter\u00fcleten hiteles, van tapasztalata. Nos, Gary Chapmannek van.<\/p>\n<p>Munk\u00e1ja sor\u00e1n azt figyelte meg, hogy &#8222;az \u00e9vszakok k\u00f6rforg\u00e1sa ak\u00e1rcsak a term\u00e9szetben, a h\u00e1zass\u00e1gban is \u00fajra \u00e9s \u00fajra megism\u00e9tl\u0151dik. Id\u0151r\u0151l id\u0151re bek\u00f6sz\u00f6nt a t\u00e9l, amikor a h\u00e1zast\u00e1rsak z\u00e1rk\u00f3zottak, mag\u00e1nyosak \u00e9s el\u00e9gedetlenek; m\u00e1skor viszont nyitottan, rem\u00e9nyteljes v\u00e1rakoz\u00e1ssal tekintenek a tavaszi meg\u00fajul\u00e1s el\u00e9. Azt\u00e1n a ny\u00e1r meleg\u00e9ben s\u00fctk\u00e9reznek \u00e9s k\u00e9nyelmesen, gondtalanul \u00e9lvezik az \u00e9letet; majd az \u0151sz \u00fajra bizonytalans\u00e1got, k\u00f6z\u00f6nyt \u00e9s aggodalmat \u00e9breszt. De hogyan lehet ezeket a v\u00e1ltoz\u00e1sokat \u00e1tv\u00e9szelni \u00e9s a kapcsolat jav\u00e1ra ford\u00edtani?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Nos, err\u0151l sz\u00f3l a k\u00f6nyv. Itt a blogon m\u00e1r t\u00f6bbsz\u00f6r \u00edrtam r\u00f3la, s\u0151t, azokhoz a bejegyz\u00e9sekhez sokan hozz\u00e1 is sz\u00f3ltatok, hogy a h\u00e1zass\u00e1gon ahhoz, hogy j\u00f3l m\u0171k\u00f6dj\u00f6n, folyamatosan dolgozni kell. Ez a k\u00f6nyv seg\u00edt felismerni, melyik \u00e9vszakban j\u00e1runk \u00e9ppen, gyakorlatias tan\u00e1csokat ad ahhoz, hogyan \u00faj\u00edthatjuk meg a kapcsolatunkat h\u00e1zast\u00e1rsunkkal a m\u00falt kudarcaib\u00f3l val\u00f3 tanul\u00e1ssal, a szeretetnyelvek alkalmaz\u00e1s\u00e1val, meg\u00e9rt\u0151 odafordul\u00e1ssal, egym\u00e1s c\u00e9ljainak t\u00e1mogat\u00e1s\u00e1val, a k\u00fcl\u00f6nb\u00f6z\u0151s\u00e9gek kiakn\u00e1z\u00e1s\u00e1val. Megmutatja, mik\u00e9nt lehet valamennyi szakaszban megteremteni az \u00e9rzelmi stabilit\u00e1st \u00e9s a harm\u00f3ni\u00e1t.<\/p>\n<p>&#8222;A legt\u00f6bben nem sz\u00edvesen fek\u00fcdn\u00e9nk ki a h\u00f3ba, hogy megv\u00e1rjuk a fagyhal\u00e1lt. Semmi okunk sincs arra, hogy belet\u00f6r\u0151dj\u00fcnk a v\u00e1ltoztathatatlanba. Mindig van ki\u00fat, s az ahhoz vezet\u0151 els\u0151 l\u00e9p\u00e9s a rem\u00e9ny!&#8221; &#8211; \u00edrja a szerz\u0151.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Ezt a k\u00f6nyvet fogom kisorsolni febru\u00e1r 14-\u00e9n este 8-kor azok k\u00f6z\u00f6tt, akik hozz\u00e1sz\u00f3l\u00e1sban jelzik, hogy szeretn\u00e9k.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Tavaly dolgoztam a Harmat Kiad\u00f3nak, \u00e9s v\u00e1laszthattam: vagy kifizetik a munk\u00e1m ellen\u00e9rt\u00e9k\u00e9t, vagy nagyobb \u00e9rt\u00e9kben v\u00e1laszthatok k\u00f6nyveket a k\u00edn\u00e1latukb\u00f3l. Mivel k\u00f6zelgett a kar\u00e1csony, a k\u00f6nyvek mellett d\u00f6nt\u00f6ttem. Remek k\u00f6nyveket kaptam, &hellip; <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[77,102],"tags":[374],"class_list":["post-7706","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-konyvajanlo","category-nyeremenyjatekok","tag-valentin"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v26.7 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Valentin-napi k\u00f6nyvsorsol\u00e1s - S\u00fctis M\u00f3ni<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/sutismoni.hu\/?p=7706\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"hu_HU\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Valentin-napi k\u00f6nyvsorsol\u00e1s - S\u00fctis M\u00f3ni\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Tavaly dolgoztam a Harmat Kiad\u00f3nak, \u00e9s v\u00e1laszthattam: vagy kifizetik a munk\u00e1m ellen\u00e9rt\u00e9k\u00e9t, vagy nagyobb \u00e9rt\u00e9kben v\u00e1laszthatok k\u00f6nyveket a k\u00edn\u00e1latukb\u00f3l. 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